Breakthrough: Ten Things I Will Enjoy when I Conquer Procrastination

As part of my little personal campaign to break the habit of procrastination, I would like to imagine a life without procrastination.

When the breakthrough in this endeavor arrives, what will success look like? What are the things I will enjoy?

  1. Constant peace of mind – from the absence of unfinished tasks whose deadlines are looming close
  2. Increased focus – when I can afford to devote more time to work on things that are begun early and well before the target completion date, which leads to…
  3. More creative ideas for the projects I work on
  4. More enjoyment of the tasks at hand – simply because every moment can be fully experienced instead of rushed through with one hundred other things on my mind
  5. A relaxed, unhurried pace of life – no more scurrying around trying to get things done in record time…which leads to…
  6. A better figure and healthier body – being on tops of things would mean I have enough time and energy to work out three times a week, instead of just once or twice
  7. Better relationship with my loved ones with more time to spend with them
  8. Better decision making – with more time to weigh the pros and cons to make sure I make the best possible choices
  9. Freedom from guilt – the nagging feeling that I may not be giving my best to whatever I am working on because time is running short; and finally, last but not least…
  10. Freedom from regret – knowing that I have been a good steward of my time here on Earth.

Goodbye, 2014

This will probably be my last post for 2014, because tomorrow I will be going up to Penang Hill for dinner, wine, endless conversation, and countdown to 2015 with two of my bosom buddies of (gasp) close to 20 years. It’s amazing how two decades have passed and we can still talk the way we did, and look the way we did when we first met.

So my annual reflection has to be done tonight. 2014 has been pretty stellar considering the mixed bag of challenges, discoveries, and victories it is. I can in all honesty say I have done my best with those 364 days, and since tomorrow will also be well spent, I guess I will have done justice to 2014 the best way I knew how.

Thank you, 2014, you’ve been stellar, and the foundation set should be enough for 2015 to be a thriving year. Since I wrote a post on the ten personal victories achieved in 2014, it is only befitting that I make a list of victories to aspire towards for 2015:

1. Conquering the New York City Marathon on the 1st of November 2015–by which I mean completing the entire 42 km in 4.5 hours or less. I will be training diligently for this one, for sure!

2. Pushing my boundaries professionally to see all my projects through, and to see their results with my very own eyes–even if this means working harder than I am used to, and working in ways I never thought I would, with people I never imagined I would work with, maybe even in places that never even crossed my mind.

3. Getting out of my shell personally, and being less reserved in reaching out to people and letting them know I care.

4. Spending more time outside–in natural surroundings, an interesting cafe, the golf course, or by the beach. This will take some effort because I love being indoors and love my apartment and my study. But every time I overcome the inertia to get myself outside I get rewarded with wonderfully heightened clarity and energy.

5. Improving my command of the Thai and German languages to the extent of being able to carry out a simple conversation with a native. Currently I am only capable of basic monologues.

6. Rekindling my prayer life and time spent reading God’s word. I have become somewhat of a complacent Christian recently, and my senses have been a bit dulled as to what the Holy Spirit may want to reveal to me, and the little epiphanies pointing to the interesting things God is orchestrating in my life! The Bible I bought in early 2014 looks brand new, a sign that I have not been reading it enough.

7. Writing better — the 200-plus posts on this blog I have managed to write have been a result of not being too attached to perfectionism, but at the same time I know I can’t let my writing deteriorate too much either. It’s time to go back to the basics of good writing — grammar, style, clarity, accuracy, showing not telling, imagery, appropriate use of vocabulary, and what not.

So there goes, my goals for 2015. Things that I articulate and write down tend to materialize, and since this is the first time I am making my list public, I guess the law of attraction should work even more strongly to make sure I accomplish all these seven things!

Here’s to 2015 — happy new year, everyone.


“I don’t look at what others are doing. I just put on my goggles and steam ahead.” – Bobbi Brown

No time to fear
There’s so much to do
All the fun to be had
When you’re being you
This is your fuel
Doing things you were born to do.

No need to worry
Take your eyes off the rest
Fix them on that you do best.

Let the world be
It does not belong on your shoulders.

This is your fuel
Just being you.

The Three Fs’ That Hold Us Back

I am certain that everyone has desires, ideals, and dreams. But most would end up settling for “what I could learn to be happy with” instead of going after “what I would really love to have”. Why? Why is it that people who live their dreams are such a minority?

For the masses who are still dreaming instead of chasing and ‘doing’ their dreams, what are the things that hold them back?

I did some reflection on the human nature (as I know it), drew on the common sentiments and laments I have heard throughout my life, and concluded that these are probably the three main factors holding us back from doing what we really want to do.

1. Finances
Money – it can never be a neutral or easy topic. We are cautioned not to love money and yet it is money that makes the world go round. If we do not have a healthy relationship with money, we will end up enslaved and entrapped — in the rat race, or simply the endless marathon to keep making ends meet. Tiring.

If we do not control our finances, they will end up controlling our lives, dictating and limiting our choices. I always believe that proper money management–saving, spending below our means, and investing wisely–is a major key to a life of freedom, where one has the financial liberty to do what they really love instead of being stuck in a job just to make ends meet.

I know of people who are enjoying early retirement, pursuing their passion just because all through their lives they have been prudent financially.

2. Fear
This comes in many forms. From my observation, people hold back from running with their dreams because they fear:

– what might go wrong
– what other people would think
– what difficulties may lie ahead, and along with these the sacrifices they would have to make
– what they may not know and discover that they are not competent enough at

These are all the negative “what ifs” and they probably stem from a lack of confidence and may I suggest, a lack of humility that may render the idea of being a novice all over again unappealing. When it comes to fear, I think the best way to cope is to just calculate the risks the best we can, do whatever homework that is necessary… And then just take the plunge by faith and be prepared for the ride ahead.

3. Family
Please don’t get me wrong–this is not about family bashing. Our loved ones care about us and sometimes with their concern and opinion of what they think is best, they unwittingly clip our wings.

So we get discouraged because lacking moral and emotional support does make change a lot harder than it already is.

Or in other instances it could be family obligations holding us back from attempting something new and risky.

I guess if I were to face family as an obstacle, the best approach would be to communicate openly, and if there are obligations involved then some adjustments and compromise may be required. For example, I may have to start by taking smaller steps than I would have liked to.

What do you think of these three factors holding many of us back from pursuing our hearts’ desires, and what would your coping strategies be?

Six Questions to Ask Ourselves Everyday, According to Brendon Burchard

Having seen Brendon Burchard’s Facebook ads, I clicked on the link and the positive comments on his training video led me to click the Play button. I wasn’t disappointed! I didn’t take notes so here from memory, in my own words, are the 6 questions he says we should be asking ourselves a few times a day if we want to “live, love and matter”.

1. Am I rested and well hydrated? (Physical)

2. What is my mission today? (Productivity)

3. What is the level of my presence, in terms of physical presence and emotional vibrancy with whatever I am doing? (Presence)

4. Am I living my truth today? (Psychological)

5. Am I demonstrating bold enthusiasm? (Persuasion)

6. How can I serve greatly? (Purpose)

So far I have done pretty well with question 1 – remembering to get sufficient sleep and drink more water than I usually do. Will be working on the rest for sure, and his video is definitely worth watching more than just once.